@Chris: True, but in many cases we are forced to judge, as on a jury, or in making decisions to hire, fire, to accept a position with a company, with whom shall we make friends and whom shall we avoid socially or even professionally. We are forced to make judgements all the time, whether we realize it or not. And then there is leadership. Someone has to lead, and leaders, for good or for ill (George Washington vs Hitler, as examples), rise to the top. Most humans are afraid to make the hard decisions, that is why leadership is so valuable a commodity, and also fairly uncommon. Leaders are mostly born, but they also learn leadership as they go along. From other leaders, for the most part, although they do have to be born with the right personality traits. USMC General Chesty Puller, as natural a leader as you’ll find, read about the great Captains of history: Julius Caesar, Robert E. Lee, Napoleon, the Khans, Constantine, Sun Tzu, Ramesses, the Yellow Emperor, Moses, Joshua, Nebuchadnezzar, Zedekiah, Pericles, Leonidas, Alexander the Great, Hannibal, Charlemagne, Ivan the Terrible, Peter the Great, King Henry V, The Black Prince of Wales, Cromwell, etc, etc.

All people can attain some semblance of leadership and presence of mind with study and training. It is inborn in a few. One of the most valuable comments you’ll hear about a soldier, whether officer or noncom, is that he or she is a natural leader.

But I think a lot of decisiveness is forced to be made because people judge others and it becomes a demand that one takes sides. From my own experience, I think if one can avoid judging others, it makes things better and happier all around.